Truthful Heart Happiness Coaching
Even happy people are sad sometimes. When we own that, we are being authentic, and without authenticity, there can be no happiness.
Name it, Claim it, Heal it!
Dysfunctional society, Dysfunctional Family? --
Test Yourself
If you have some, or even many of these symptoms, you are not alone!
And there can be much of healing and even happiness amidst it all.
Name it, Claim it, Heal it!
Dysfunctional society, Dysfunctional Family? --
Test Yourself
If you have some, or even many of these symptoms, you are not alone!
And there can be much of healing and even happiness amidst it all.
Some Qualities of “Adult -Children” from families of Dysfunction
Test Yourself:
1. Have you been challenged with your own compulsive, perfectionistic or addictive behavior?
2. Do you have a problem in making plans or decisions and/or following through on them?
3. Do you seek approval & affirmation from others, but it never seems to be enough?
Do you fear criticism and fail to recognize your achievements ?
4. Are you uncomfortable when life is going well, looking for the next crash or struggle? Do you feel more alive in the midst of crisis?
5. Do you overextend yourself, feeling responsible for others, caring for them easily while ignoring many of your own needs?
Are you super-responsible or irresponsible, super- controlled or over- impulsive, OR switch between extremes?
6. Do have trouble communicating and often chose to isolate yourself from others?
7. Do you cling to relationships for fear of being alone?
8. Do you have trouble with intimacy, possibly attracting or seeking people who tend to be abusive or compulsive? Have you confused pity with love?
9. Do you find it hard to identify and express your emotions? Do you find yourself mistrusting your own feelings & those expressed by others?
10. Do you have issues or fears of authority and/or angry people? (May include religion, the "god idea", etc).
11. Do you guess at what "normal" is & sometimes feel like a kid in a world of grown -ups?
12. Do you often feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
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If you have answered yes to 3 or more of these questions, then you may be one of the millions
of "adult children" from a distressed or dysfunctional family of origin characterized by
poor parenting or emotional skills. Many of these families are over-controlling, possibly abusive
or addictive, even if they do not engage in overtly addictive or compulsive behavior.
If you were part of a childhood home of dysfunction or distress, then you were affected
and may still be affected today.
This is not about blaming -- it is about changing lifelong patterns.
Understanding the family dynamic and how it affected you can give you
a new way to understand yourself and have compassion for yourself, as well as to find
new pathways to freedom from the difficult feelings and behaviors that once entrapped you.
Take Heart, dear Friend--
Recognition is the first step in changing...
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Recognition is the first step in changing...
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“If nothing changes, nothing changes…”
