Truthful Heart Happiness & Self- Kindness
Coaching and the Inner Work
Love, the Truthful Heart and Kindly Inner Healing...
Coaches who have done their inner work and faced their own "demons" and personal challenges
are often those who can be supportive of others who are facing difficult challenges.
> Have you ever felt "shut off" or silenced by advice given too soon-- far before you were ready for it.
> Have you felt hurt by someone who wanted you to "recover at once!"
even from your deepest inner wounds?
There are those who simply do not have the patience to truly listen and let you find the way home that can work for you. Those who cannot listen to the journey of the hurting are often those who have not walked that path themselves with the love and compassion needed to really be heard.
Coaches are not supposed to be counselors, but this work often moves into the counselling area and in most instances that is fine. I believe the best coach is one who has done their own inner work and that is something I have done. Those who may be lacking in this area have been known to stifle the emotional discharge of others which can be vital for the inner work of healing. That kind of reaction is often experienced as rejection, and is likely to feel hurtful to the client who should be commended for being genuine and honest in seeking help, understanding and true compassion.
To reach deeply into one's own truth which may include deep pain requires strength and courage. To face ourselves with a truthful heart-- that, to me, often calls for the support of one who has walked that path and come into vital healing.
Clients are often inspired by a personal sharing of experience more than anything else. The genuine knowledge of the heart is vital in addition to that which comes from the intellect or other sources, and the power of peer support is palpable. As I clear my own personal blocks and issues of my own ongoing work, I find deeper compassion, a lighter heart, and greater inclination to self- kindness and peace, even amid the thorny pathways. These I share with clients so that they can also experience a hope that is genuine through the eyes of one who has walked a similar road.